Friday, January 18, 2008

The Overachiever

I confess.  I take on too much that I can actually handle.  All the time.  When people stare at me, smile and say, "Wow, I just don't know how you keep it together," I look back and say, "I'm just really great at multi-tasking."  Well at this stage of my life, I am officially immersed in multi-task overload.  I'm busy trying to pursue my dream of one day becoming the next Nora Ephron (never gonna happen), while running a PR business, taking on a new writing gig, planning a big event for next week, raising an eight and a five year old and attempting to keep my cat and my husband happy.
Usually, I take on challenges and thrive on pressure.  But the hard part is when all of my worlds collide, I turn into a big bawling mess.  Today when I closed the door to my office, called my mom and all I got was her answering machine, I wanted to break down in tears.  Luckily, she called back about 45 minutes later so I was able to cry to her about all the work that has piled on at once and how overwhelmed I was and she offered me the perfect advice.  "Take a breath.  Go home.  Turn the computer off.  And enjoy your family."
Enjoy your family.  Isn't that supposed to be what it's all about anyway?   I quit my job so I could launch my own entrepreneurial venture and be at home with my kids more.  And now I find myself like Adam Sandler in the movie "Click," where all he's doing is fast forwarding through life and not enjoying any of the milestones that go along with it.  
Well, I for one don't want to miss any of these moments.  I love my children and my husband.  I am amazed every day by my kids' accomplishments.  My son makes my heart melt - today he was the class president - and my daughter is absolutely amazing.  She can crochet, ice skate, is a budding gymnast, but most of all, she is a sweet child with a good heart.
And at the end of the day, that's what it's all about.  No matter how hard you work, or how successful you become in life, the people that truly count are your family.  As women, we are taught to strive to have it all but sometimes, it's okay to stop and smell the roses.  It's okay to want to be with your kids and not be working round the clock to make an important deadline.  It's okay to take a vacation.  It's okay not to work.
After reading some of the latest posts from one of my favorite writers, the Self Made Mom, I've come to realize that working moms are so hard on ourselves and on those that drop out of the race to become SAHMs.  But what we don't realize is that until we try it ourselves, we shouldn't judge what other moms decide to do with their lives.  I know that I've mocked moms who bake for PTA functions or lead Brownie and Girl Scout troops, but what I should have done was thank them.  Thank them for being there when I couldn't.  For looking out for my kids and for being a role mommy.  Yes, working or at home, all mothers have the potential to be role mommies. As long as you pursue your passion or do what you love, you are capable of anything.  But be careful of taking on too much too soon - my biggest foible - and admit that we are not strong, we are not invincible.  We are women, we cry and you know what, sometimes a good cry can make everything better. Just ask Hillary Clinton.


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